General Chat

Evening all,

Just been reading back on the thread, So pleased all the old names are still around. Sorry I haven't been around for a long time,but I do think about you all, from yime to time.

I am getting along quite well, not so many BAD TEMPERS and flying off the handle. My wonderfull other half has had to put up with me through my bad times. I hope its now over.

I had a week in France in may with my wife, Son his wife and G'Son. Had a great time. My son has a holiday caravan down there, I am going back in August for 10 days on my own. It will be to hot for my wife Plenty of Sun and Red wine, I will be as happy as Larry. It will get me away from my enviroment, and should do me good.

Love to all.

Oh Carole, you poor soul.
Ain't it always the same?
Frustration at all times, especially when we are already in a poor state!
Bless you love.
Deanna XXX

Now today I want to send my love at the beginning while I am fresh and remembering the names of my friends.... of course I will still forget some of you, but I wanted you to know that I DO think of you all.

Mary... coffee any time love.
Allan does make a lovely cup of coffee. We drink ground, don't like instant.
I was not around when you lost your little lad, I just read it now. You must have been going off your heads. Unnecessary to say it but I am so happy that you found him, bless him.

Gail, thank you for the sympathy and advice... we all need it, it helps so much just knowing that others care.

Alison, you are right... this is not a *complaining thread* so Mary does not need to worry about moaning.
This is a thread where we can ALL come and air our pains and worries... if we need a moan... so what?

Carole I have had many times since you started this thread when I have felt so good after a little read and *moan* thanks folks, I need this thread and all of you in it.
I have laughed and cried on this thread, I have left it worrying about others instead of myself, good thing too.
It was a wonderful idea, and goodness knows what we did without it ... I can't remember!
One thing we never get on here?
Arguments!!
I feel safe here... thanks folks for that.

Joyce.. DUTCH... thank you for the card , we got it this morning.
Well at least I was not eating my breakfast! ha ha ha
BUT, I must tell you.
I got in the shower.... Allan knocked on the door to get into the toilet!!
THEN I had a telephone call from my nurse.... So Allan came and told me.
What could I do?
So I said I will phone her back.
Then had to rush to get dried and dressed, and as you know I can't rush.
So do you think God is telling me that I should NOT have breakfast in future, or that I should not get up? ;-0)

Caz-Carole... how are you today?
You seem to be better, but I can only judge by your e-mails. Don't forget to rest up and let Phil do as much as he wants to, frees you up for lots and lots of rest.

Liz, Colin, Ben, Claire, Ann, Eileen, and anyone I have not mentioned... look after yourselves and I will be back tomorrow.... I hope.

OH... I nearly forgot our big news.
We are treating ourselves to a new Vacuum cleaner, cheaper... but lighter and easier than the one we have now. Isn't it a wonder what we can get excited about?

love to all and a hug to anyone who needs one.
Deanna XXX

Mary we are with you when it come to problems in the home this week.
I tried to lift the floor covering Friday as we were having a man come to build a partition wall, and I didn't want it over the floor covering. I couldn't get it to come from under the loo so S tried to lift the loo, while I pulled. It would not move, so he unfastened the water pipe that feeds the tank then pulled the loo forward a couple of inches. No luck still. S had a great idea to flush the loo so he wasn't trying to lift so much weight, .............. water running everywhere. He had pulled the loo forward and off the waste pipe!!!! Called plumber!!

Yesterday we cleared the utility room so we could paint the walls. All coats S threw on the dining room table ( which is only three months old) later I changed the handle on the dining room door and noticed the liquid air freshener on the table had been knocked over. I ran for a cloth but it must have happened a long time before I got near. The liquid had spread over the table and through the two pieces of wood onto the extension underneath. The extension is in two halves but was welded together with the varnish that the air freshener fluid had melted. Coats had been thrown on a chair while we cleaned up two had the varnish on them, then I noticed some had come into contact with the chair leaving a mark on it as well. This is turning out to be an expensive accident! Phoned insurance company and they are sending someone on Thursday to assess the table. Of course it was anyone but S's fault!! They shouldn't be allowed to sell those air fresheners!!! Men xxxx (sorry Colin & Ben)

Hi, still in the land of the living. Have been resting and being very good. Finally feeling sooo much better, amazing what a few little pills will do.

Mary I love my very old house, but it sure is a money guzzler at times. We had a leaking roof over our kitchen and bathroom area for a few years, had it fixed many times but still leaked so we got a new roof over that area and guess what it leaked as well. We made the roofing guy come back again and again till the leaks stopped. We also had to have all the timbers replaced and the ceiling. It was well insulated as starlings had it full of grass. Now we have proper insulation. But I have also been told that brand new houses can have the same problems. We had all new plumbing done 3 years ago and last year a pipe burst in the kitchen, so nothing is fool proof.

I hope everyone is feeling better today.

Love and hugs

Gail

Thanks Alison, I'm feeling a bit more human this morning LOL.
Have to work this evening so mustn't do too much before going in.

Smelled a funny smell this morning - last week when Sarah dumped all my veggie seeds in the sink, apparently Megan cleaned it up and dumped all the wet seeds in a bowl. This morning I track the smell and lo and behold there are bean plants and peas growing out of the bowl on the counter, which I apparently had missed . . . .

BTW the bank manager didn't reduce me to tears yesterday, I was in a state of anxiety when I went in there, the tears were my own response - she was extremely nice and helpful and I was totally honest with her, nice to talk to someone who is non-judgemental, and is able to pick out the positive side !!
This morning I felt like I can tackle the remaining piles of papers, then megan says Mum have you looked at the cupboard? What cupboard??? so she leads me to the storage cupboard, and still I don't know what I am supposed to be looking at - she says 'the ceiling's falling down'. OK - a new problem - apparently the roof has leaked yet again and the ceiling is falling in, an area about 2' x 1'.
Think I'll go back to bed and start my day over.
TTFN
Mary

Hi Mary,

((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

Hang in there and I don't think anyone minds if you complain and who said it was complaining anyway? Nothing like sharing how you feel.

Alison

Deanna, have you got an extra cup of coffee? I find a strong cup will make pain pills more effective if taken together. Been so sore since my fall in the garden, the strong meds I'm on don't touch the shoulder, but have helped the foot tremendously. Sorry to be a complainer, when others are so much worse-off than I am, just feeling a bit overhwelmed by it tonight. Have 3/4 of the 2 new flower beds done, just cannot dig or pull sod today.
So, at 9pm, I am heading to bed with an icepack.
'night all - will try and be in improved mood tomorrow. I had to talk to the bank manager today and honestly was nearly in tears, totally inappropriate.

Mary

COLIN..... YOU GUESSED!!! ;-0)

Ah well, she did tell me there are about 6 million people with the same problem. Doesn't help knowing that when you have a bad day does it? ;-0(

Mary, I know you will believe me when I say that I do KNOW how you and your daughter feel when yet again she is let down by the one man in her life who SHOULD be trustworthy.
Bless her and every child who is let down by their fathers.
I wonder would they change if the saw the results of their selfishness??
I doubt it though.
I know that even at my age I still suffer.... and why? It is not as if he is around anymore for me to tell him how hurt I was/am!!

My coffee is ready folks so I am off to take it.
See you all later.
Love Deanna XXX

Hello, just a quickie before I go to bed (11 pm here ... ). Special warm hugs to lots- Cairjo, Gail, Mary in Canada, YCaz, Sparkly, Tinkers, Hazel if you're there. Ben, too. But especially Deanna. I don't think you are stupid, or lame. Even if you lost part of your brain through a stroke and it affected your moods, we can tell that you have not lost your mind. I for one am full of admiration. Isn't it great to be able to talk to a doctor? Not sure what your little problem is but if you like to know where the toilets re I can assure you that there really are millions like you. Without being too biological, I also have been caught short and I am sure lots of others, too. In my case, it is eating too many nuts or dried fruit at once but garlic sets a friend off, and of course anxiety can really upset the tummy. xx to all, Colin

Deanna, you did make me laugh, pouring away the stock! I find if o.h. cooks there is so much mess it's a nightmare so I do most of it and all the washing up too, as his eyesight isn't great and he misses things stuck on plates urgh! He likes to think he is some kind of superchef and uses everything, I mean, fgs, he uses the huge kitchen knife to slice his cheese on toast!

Mary glad you are getting the stuff done in the garden, on our gumtree site there is a husband for rent - only to do all the odd jobs and stuff but makes me smile every time I see him there.

Must go, the stairs are creaking, means he is up and getting ready for work, my cue to go to bed.

love to all, have a nice day, beautiful sunrise a little while ago, the sky was deep red, like a fire!
Lizxxxxx

Good morning all, just on for a mo to send hugs where needed. 'My' Mary is back this morning, apparently she spent 5 hours cleaning her room yesterday after I left, now more than the ceiling is tidy LOL. The laundry room is full I might add. This morning the noticeable difference is that her face looks relaxed, where yesterday she looked like a walking thundercloud. Apparently her father called yesterday evening and cancelled yet again - last week it was because he'd 'rushed' his gf to hospital to have her appendix out, this time she's been in a car accident and the car is in the shop. Remarkable recovery in less than a week don't you think????? Also strange why all their crises happen on weekends.

Beautiful day today, I love the very green trees with a background of bright blue sky.
We are heading outside to try and finish the 2 new beds at the head of the driveway. Already have hosta, buddleia, weigelia, yellow climbing roses, a sad little spirea and a lavender bush planted.. Should look very nice when done, but we are still struggling with removal of grass . . . Colleen advertised on Facebook yesterday that she wanted to rent a man to help with the grassremoval !! My response was that I hoped she wasn't thinking of 'rent to own'. I had to start planting before the grass removal was completed because the plants all came from other folk's gardens, thanks to Freecycle. Now I have a group of ground cover plants from the same source, awaiting planting.
Must get off here, lots to do before I leave for work.
Mary

Well folks, the first time I seem to have the time and the energy to come on for a quick chat and you are all .....ABSENT.... ;-0(

Liz, not spoken to you in ages have I?
Mary, I do think about you and your children.. both generations... a lot but rarely these days have the energy to come on and speak.
Still today I feel fine, the sun is shining and we even have the fans out.... in the bedroom, the living room, and one here beside me in case I need it. I had to switch it on yesterday as it was really very hot and sticky.... what a summer we will have if this early heat is anything to go by.
Tony is taking Karen to Egypt for her birthday. It was a Christmas present from him and Allan and I. Her birthday is 15Th July. She is a teacher so they will be on holiday and ... off they go.
I hope they have a good time. He is doing really well with his Arabic and will have more lessons when he goes back.

How are you now since your fall Carole?
I am suffering too, with my back.
I swear the fault is my pillows. I really should invest in some new memory foam pillows. My back has been a bit of a problem since I
fell in hospital, and Allan made the bed the other day and put the pillows all back to front. SO... we had the hard support pillows on top and the soft ones underneath.
Being a highly intelligent woman, it took me till 4 in the morning to understand WHY my back was sore!! Still, once I had sorted them I slept.
To add to this problem, I treated myself to two new bra's .... The shock to my body of a bra which actually does its job, added to the pain in my back!!!

Isn't this supposed to be a thread about depression???
SO.... why am I talking of new bra's?
Well we all know the answer to that don't we?
I'm an idiot!.... But I do need the sympathy... awhhhh I have such a sore back.... awh....
OKAY... that's enough sympathy thanks you all.

So Carole.... How did your daughter enjoy the racing? AND... more importantly, did she win anything?

How are you these days Gail?
Well getting tired now and no kidding, my back is suffering now.
So before I go I must tell you what I did to help Allan today.... I'm a good girl me.

Allan boiled a chicken to make soup for yesterday, and a risotto for today.
There was some soup left so we had some today at lunch time.
I then went into the kitchen to do a little tidy to help Allan.... he is such a messy cook....
I put things away, washed the soup plates etc.
The place looked much better after my little tidy.
BUT.......... I had poured the chicken stock for the risotto down the drain!! ha ha ha
NO... not funny really, and after Allan had stopped beating me... he did laugh! ;-0)

Well I am off now as I am fed up talking to myself!
Enjoy your Sunday rest, and I will see you all tomorrow I hope.

Have a good Sunday,
Love to all
Deanna XXXX

Just a quickie to say hi to all and to say I did put up a thread for Lily, Thistledown, a few days ago, me and my memory, I forgot to check it or nudge it so will try to find it now,

better go, lurch is on his way in from working in the garden and needs feeding. lol

love and hugs to you all and I will get round to responding to pms and emails, honest injun! Just not sure when. Pig sick that someone in Britain won half the euromillions prize, £25 million and it wasn't me ! sob sob Oh what good I could have done with that money.

lots of love, stay positive if you can through the tiredness and all

Lizxxxxxxx

Mary, don't worry about her.
She is a good girl with a good 'grounding' she has been 'abducted' by the 'teenfairy' and she will be returned when the teen fairy is finished with her.
That is quite a wicked fairy.. the teen fairy... but she never wins in the long run!! ;-0)
Can't stay tonight but will be back tomorrow.
Love to all,
Deanna XXX

Deanna I am so glad to see you back on here, never mind about 'blethering on', I love to read what is written.

have to go to work in an hour, feel agitated today, my eldest granddaughter miniM is becoming very mouthy, usually the sweetest child so something imust be really bothering her. I suspect it's about her father, whom Em says is 'embarassing in public'. he's cancelled the last 3 visits, both of them are starting to see through him and don't like what they see. if they say anything negative, it will be blamed on their Mum. I strongly suspect mini has depression, she wants to sit and do nothing for hours on end, where does one find someone objective to talk with her. of course Em says 'Mary has teenage-itis' . . . . don't know where she's heard that expression. But it fits!! I asked her if she was going to 'do anything' today, and her response was " I already am doing something - I'm breathing". the urge to lash out squelched.
By golly, mini just came and apologised for being rude to me earlier, has someone put her up to it?
Off to have a shower before work, catch you all tomorrow hopefully.
Group hug
Mary

Clare, I hope that your little one soon gets out of this phase. There is nothing worse than not getting enough sleep is there?


Deanna, how lovely to see you back on here, so pleased that you are feeling better. I bet your Mum's cabinet looks lovely now, every cloud and silver linings and all that. Great for you to find a nurse who actually listens and comforts you, it is such a help isn't it. leased that Alan is feeling better too, i expect when you are both down it is harder for you both to 'go up' again if one is down the other can be uplifting.

I don't know what the weather is like where you are but it has been lovely here today and that lifts the spirits too, OH has been able to get the garden looking lovely before we go away for a week tomorrow.

Take Care
Ann xxxxx

Hi everyone, how are you all?
I am feeling much better and Allan too.
We just had a bad time of it for a few days... a bit lethargic.. do you know what I mean?
Allan slept a lot and I just sat there feeling 'comfortably USELESS'... ha ha ha
We were getting up late, not too much of a change for me, but for my Allan.... completely unheard of.
He has ALWAYS woken up with 'work' in his head, and a smile on his face.... I on the other hand have always woken up with a 'frown, a moan, a mean mind...'... you name it, that was me! But this week , we were just very low.
I am sure you have all had those moments.
I think though in my case it was mainly depression. So... what's new?

Anyway I seem to be so much better and even managed a good house tidying day on Thursday.
I'm no longer the woman I was, but I am still the woman who *tries*, if that stops I will know I've had it! ;-0)
I even cleaned my mums china cabinet.... took me ALL DAY!! A job which would have taken an hour before the stroke.
Still.I am so pleased that I did it.
It is sparkling now... mummy would be pleased.
perhaps the next bout of depression I get I will do another big job.

Just started to feel a little better and and on the first morning I felt *human*I had a phone call from that *Dutch* one.
Got rid of her quick..... my toast was cold by the time I ate it.... ;-0)
BUT.... it is lovely to know that people care about us, isn't folks?
And being close enough to someone I have not even met... to say.... B**** off, and have her laugh... it cheered me up no end.
Thanks Joyce... and if you phone me at breakfast time again, I'll kill yah stone dead!! ha ha ha

I still have not answered MaxiMary's e-mail and I am so sorry Mary, but forgive me please. I WILL answer you though... you do know that don't you?

I had an interview with the nurse... I did tell some of you about it, didn't I?
It is a bit embarrassing but I came out of that room feeling wonderful.
Tony took me of course, and he asked how long we would be, the nurse said 20 to 30 minutes. So Tony went for a walk around the boating lake.... we were still talking when he came back. We were 45 minutes!
She was wonderful to me.
I came out of there so full of hope that I was able to go to the shops on the way home. We bought a few bits, a news paper, and I had a coffee and a toasted sandwich while Tony had'mince and tatties'.... quite a nice time I had. STILL.... there was a toilet there so I was safe.
She is contacting my doctor, and wants to see me in a month to see how I get on with the tablets she has recommended to my doctor. I hope they work for me.
She said they will be stronger than any I have had before.
What a difference when we are lucky enough to speak to a medical practitioner who REALLY cares... she was lovely, bless her. AND.... She sat there and allowed me to cry most of the time while I spoke to her. Plus... she did not make me feel like a fool. She explained that I was one of MILLIONS of people, men as well as women, who had this problem.
Ah well... shut up Deanna and lets see how things go. ;-0)

Thanks to all who took the time to find out how I was... and to Ann for taking the time to let you all know that I would be back.
If Any of you have been ill and I did not know, I hope you are all on your way to good health again. And I am going to try so hard to be well.... even when I don't feel like it. That is the biggest problem isn't it? Sometimes it is just too difficult to carry on when we feel low, but it is better for us to TRY. Just sometimes we can't.
Well, I have blethered enough rubbish for now and enjoyed every minute of it believe me.
I am sometimes overwhelmed by all the work I have to do on the computer, do any of you feel like that?

Well, off now, see you again tomorrow.
Lots of love to... Ann, Joyce, Mary, Heather, Carole Tinkerbell, and Carole (caz)... Ben, Colin, Eileen, and all of you whom I have not mentioned.... You are all important to me.
Deanna XXXX

Oh Claire I wish I could send you some sleep . . . . S&G have actually been sleeping much better since we got the trampoline or as G calls it 'Jumpoleen'. Still settling late but sleeping through. The Melatonin helped them too but it's so expensive when there are 2 taking them., They are chocolate flavour strips which melt on your tongue. They don't make the dissolving tablets any more apparently.
Give the little man a hug for me,
love
Mary

Hello to you all
Ihave had rather a difficult week. Little boy is sleeping very badly, up and awake at 3 am every morning. He just never seems to get tired whilst I am feeling exhausted and in desperate need of a good night.
Thanks for the hug the other day Carole, I needed it!!
Has anyone heard from Lily, I havnt seen her about for ages, if you are looking in Lily, hope you are ok.
Off now got to go and get stuff for daughter who has to dress up for a procession in church tomorrow and some grocery shopping.
Hoping that you all have a good weekend
Love
Claire x