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Hi all, out later today with my son, and had to ask o.h. along as felt bad leaving him home alone - his Mum died when he was 18 so altho he is popping to his Dad's it's to see him with an errand, not for the stepmother's sake, kind tho she is. I did say he shouldn't go emptyhanded so for the first time ever he is taking a suitably worded card ! He did get her a hyacinth in a pot but I had to remind him she is allergic to strong perfumes so I got the hyacinth instead lol She is a vegan so he will try and pick up her favourite chocolate on his way round while I am sleeping in and then getting ready, we are going to one of those all you can eat Chinese restaurants, son booked the table and we have been before so should be pleasant, and then we can have an afternoon doing whatever I want . Woe betide o.h. if he does anything to spoil my day!

Hope you all have a lovely day, and Mary, hope your night away was special.

Love
Lizxxx

Sharron pleased to see your thread back up.

Mary, where have you been? Who were you with? What time did you get home? What did you do? You didn't give notice you were going away for a night. lol. Hope you had some you time xx

Mrs Blue eyes good to see you. I know the lovely people on here will get behind you. xx

Eileen it's okay we still got you too!! How are you? Thinking of you as always xx

Dutch!!!! Dutch!!! I can't shout much louder where are you? What are you doing? Hope you and J are okay xx

Have you all seen Hazels thread for carrers? It's a great idea.

Paula hope you are okay xx

Colin nice to talk to you x

Deanna I am amazed at you and your recovery this far. Any news from T? Hope he is having a great time he deserves it. xx

Liz looking forward to him getting back to work so we can have you xxx lol

Happy Mothers Day to all you Mums. I'm going to see my Mum, will be watching the clock to make my escape after a couple of hours as always!!

Hi folks, hope I find you all well. Sorry I've not been on for a while, I've not really been online for quite a while and haven't touched my tree at all. Seems work is tiring me out, hoping the better weather will make me a bit more dynamic!

Had a fantastic time at Mum and Dad's golden anniversary do and felt as cool as a cucumber without even needing to take an Imodium and didn't miss alcohol at all! Then had a panic just popping into Dunelm, there is obviously no rhyme or reason as to what triggers my panics.

Been thinking a lot about my SIL today, it would have been her 48th birthday, can't believe it's 12 years since she's been gone. Seems like only yesterday she was sat in our garden looking beautiful and happy.

Hope you all have a good weekend and get spoiled rotten tomorrow.

Alison xxxxx

Thanks again, it feels comforting to know I have some lovely people to talk to about it..xx

The bike is a new one because my old one was difficult to ride, this one is a dream it has a lovely little basket on the front.

I'll take a step at a time take your good advice and see what happens.

I have brought up my narcissism thread and let rip on it.There is a lovely thread for the lucky ones to leave messages for their late mothers.I felt that we,the forgotten minority should also be represented without spoiling their sentiments.

Good luck to all of you who are still struggling with the confusion and misery that being the victim of narcissism brings and Happy Mother's Day to those of you who are not.

I have both - depression & SADD, ie the depression escalates in the winter months. The SADD light has really helped, 20 mins each morning, above my computer, while I'm checking my email.
Wishing you well Mrs Blue Eyes, walk with us . . .
I'm going away overnight , leaving in a few minutes, so may not be back till the end of the weekend. Stay well, absorb some sunshine, believe in yourself.
Mary

Mrs Blue Eyes I was also told I had SAD's I think I was being fobbed off now! I think it was the begining of depression for me.

The doctor probably didn't want to lable me a yourng woman (then) with depression. But I think it was the start of it. I was in my mid twenties and had a nice house, a good husband and two young children etc......... But depression isn't about what you have or don't have any more than mumps or the flu! I believe it's something in your head an inballance of something.
Or deep memories that we don't want to think about.
Are you having panic attacks? It will pass but at it's own speed,
try to relax and give yourself time to heal.

Now about that new bike. Is it a replacement or have you not had one for a long time? Hope you enjoy your rides in the fresh air!! xx

H said last night she is over him. She also has been thinking like me that he used her to pay half the rent while he was working part time, while studying. Now he has his new job he can afford to pay the bills himself. Oh well life moves on. She is going out with her friends and chearful again. xx

Hope you are all okay xx

Thank you for your lovely pms, there was 4 waiting for me, it was a bit scary as it's the first time I've had to go to the Docs. about it, I suffer from SAD to a certain degree and just thought it was that to start off with.
In a way it was almost a relief to be diagnosed with depression at least I know I'm not going nuts, (well no more than usual)

Thank you for all your advice, I had a lovely new bike now and am walking as well, I know it will help.. xx

Bit short of time at the mo, lots to do, but I am ok and thinking of you all, just feel sorry I can't respond to everyone,
Chin up, brighter longer days ahead.

Love
Lizxxxxx

Hello to Mrs Blue Eyes. I have also sent you a personal message. The first time I took anti-depressants I was better BEFORE I took the first capsule. To know that it was a real, medical illness with a treatment available was in itself helpful. Later episodes were much worse, and sometimes it was two weeks before I really felt any better. In 23 years, I can relate to how you feel in the depths of depression, but it does pass. I also had one hypomanic episode in 1997 and I can tell you that was frightening. Not a pleasant experience at all, unlike the experience of some people with manic-depression (now usually called bipolar illness).

Warm wishes to all
Colin

Mrs Blue eyes have sent you a pm. Welcome to our little club.
Hope you will join in. x

Eileen I went to cadburys world, and they have little cars like cream eggs. Now there is an idea for Doug. Not very good for his street cred!!

Mary sending you a big hug. Your dad sounds lovely.xx

Liz Paula Gail Sharron Treehunter Ben Clairejo love to you all

Elaine hasn't been on for ages, I do hope that her, and her oh are okay

Deanna & Carole,

Buy the boy a car? What with, shirt buttons? I am walking on my gums, so to speak, as it is.....money or the lack of it being a BIG problem.Doug. has a car, albeit an old banger.I would rather see him in a Volvo, old or not, they are far safer....

Sunyy & spring-like here again today. Am still trying to pull myself up by the old boot laces.

Take care everyone.

Eileen xx

Thank you Claire that was kind of you x

PS.............Eileen, buy the boy a car, even Carole agrees with me! ;-0)
Deanna XXXX

Mrs Blue Eyes.....I was on the *little blue pills* and I loved them.
the hospital took them off me after I suffered the renal failure.
I now have to be careful what I take and how often.
AND BOY DO I MISS THEM.
I had an immediate result with my Prozac.
I was better from the first day.
They were amazing.
I had been in such a bad state when I went to the doctor.
I told him ( my old doctor) that I had my husband destroyed within 5 minutes of getting up in the mornings. He said that I was just too sick to cope and gave me the little miracle pills.
I could do with them now, but I cannot have them.
Yours will kick in and you will see the difference. IF YOU DON'T... the doctor will try you on something else.
Good luck love and I hope all goes well very soon.

To everyone else... I am thinking of you and hope you are all doing well.
Deanna XXX

I've not been on GR much lately, I didn't what was wrong with me after 3-4months I went to the Doc and I have been given some pretty white and blue pills to take.
They are prozac only the 20mg as it's the first time I've had them, it's day 11 since I started them and I stil feel like I'm drowning, how long before I start to feel better, I'm walking and trying to keep myself occupied so I don't sit and feel sorry for myself, I feel so wretched and lonely I don't want to burden my family with it.

Well last night I made a right twit of myself. I waited for 2 hours on my computer for my lesson in handwriting. They were going to send an email with the link. The time was for 8 pm. When email did not turn up thought, well we are still on daylight savings, thought maybe 9 pm, again email did not arrive. I gave up and went to bed. The email arrived this morning after 9 am to say the lessons were starting soon. Well it was too late as do not get on computer until after OH goes to work at 2 pm.

I did not allow for the time difference, but then did not know which part of USA it was streaming from either. Most disappointed to say the least.

Gail

Thirty-five years ago today, March 20,1974, my Dad gave up his fight with the Big C. I still miss him - his big burly, teddy bear huggable frame, his gentleness with my tiny children, his unconditional caring. I was, at the time, quite dependent on his wisdom to guide me through difficult experiences, but didn't ask enough questions about his part of the family tree, he gave me just enough info to whet my appetite for genealogy, which still pushes me along.
Thanks for the memories dear Dad, much loved 'Taid' to your grandchildren, now there are 8 great grandchildren for you to love. We keep your memory alive for them.
Bless you.
mary

Have to laugh at both Deanna & Carole's comment about the choc.egg and (new) car. So, the old ad. is still alive and kicking, 'go to work on an egg'? Douglas already has a car which his dad bought some time back.It's only an old banger which both have been doing up themselves. I have to say that I am nervous about him driving everywhere from now on. Still, it may be a bit safer than his scooter.

Paula, I have just read your post about your brother. What a terrible dilemma!! You are really between a rock and a hard place.I feel for you, having to make more or less the same choice, but not so drastic.It keeps you awake at night , worried sick, doesn't it? Will keep you in my thoughts and all of you who need some support in one way or another.

Sleep well.

Eileen xx

Eileen I am with you about passing first time. My son went off to take his road test age 18, and I was convinced he wouldn't pass first time, but he came home pleased with himself he had passed! I was kinda hoping he wouldn't, and he would have a bit more time to understand the responsibility of driving. He wasn't too long before he ended up in a ditch, thankfully no one hurt. It was a good wake up call though. Best wishes to G for many years of sate driving xx

Deanna, a new car instead of an Easter egg!! pmsl xx

Oh yeh, well I took the two lads to pick up the third passenger and should have had some stools. But no. So she started ringing lady who is day off to see why she didn't bring them to me as arranged yesterday. I said I'd go back and get them as by now I was needing the loo! No Need they decided. So I pulled in at a side street near one of our shops and went into use their loo! So the day went okay. Must start to look in freezer and see whats to eat tonight xxx