General Chat

Gail, he sounds delightful and will bring lots of joy I am sure. Hope he continues to thrive.

Kathy, hope you are ok, and all those I didn't mention in previous post.

love and hugs to all, and a Happy New Year in case I miss anyone later!
Lizxx

Thank you for your PM and input about Brother. I still feel stupid though.

Okay, someone asked about grandson.

He is 5 3/4 months old and growing like a house on fire, is in size one in clothes. Grew out of his large bassinet so we brought him a cot for Christmas. Daughter tells me he is all over the cot and never where he is put down, badly needed the extra room. He is going to grow into a very big boy. His mum is very tiny, lucky to be 5 ft. She got all the short genes. Had loads of health problems when young as was a premmie and has heart murmur. On my dads side, his mum was 4 ft 9 inches, his father 6 ft 6 inches. I think grandson has inherited tall genes from both families, his dad is only about 5 ft 5 inches, there are very tall people on his side as well. All dads uncles were over 6 ft 2 ins.

He is a beautiful little boy and very placid and lovely nature. Far too pretty though for a little boy.

Love and hugs to everyone.

Gail

So much going on with this thread and I can't do as well as Carole either so apologies for those I miss out.

Caz, I am sorry I upset you with the info about the chickens. There are lots of them being given the chance of a second life nowadays not just this lady, so feel happy that the more publicity given, the more can be saved from an untimely end, and they will grow more feathers and look great, the jumpers are just to keep them warm till the new feathers come through, then they are returned for the next batch of chooks. Imagine a washing line full of little chicken jumpers lol Doesn't that bring a smile to your face?

I will try and call you today Monday or Tuesday to say hi and have a chat and Carole, I think I pm'd you to say let me have your number so I can try you and will leave my number then, it's hard to take calls this week as he is home every evening, doing different shifts to the usual ones :>((

Gail, you take care of yourself, and ignore your brother, I do mine. I emailed one yesterday to say was he economising or was he poorly as had not had a card, he sent back a very brief email saying he sent one so it must be lost in the post, don't think my son got one either, and they stopped doing gifts a while back ... used to get a poor relation goody bag of wine, chocs, biscuits but nothing in the last two years. I had said when my son was young that I never seemed to get the right gift for them, my son would phone to say thank you for the shirt or something equally boring, lol, and they would say, Oh thanks for your present, we haven't opened ours yet but I am sure it is lovely, but I would never get any feedback later on so in the end decided it was silly, I was spending money I couldn't afford, being a single Mum, and they were loaded as no kids and both high paying jobs, so said would they maybe just do my son a small gift and forget about me and I would stop giving them stuff I didn't know if they liked or not! Following year, son got gift, I got calender and then next year I got goodybag and gift voucher and son got money and so it went on till two years ago by which time they had stopped sending son money and then stopped the goody bag. Strange folk! Other brother hasn't bothered for years and used to send printed cards to all, this year they sent hand written ones from Sainsburys lol Maybe life is harder for them now but they just bought a new house a year ago, half a million pounds and my bro has his own double glazing business so shouldn't be too badly off. I just think Oh well, don't have to say thank you! Try not to let it upset you.

Maximary, hope things have calmed down now and you aren't working too hard for your last full time shifts. You will surely enjoy less pressure on you with fewer days to work, and may be able to get on top of things at home. I hope so as I know how stressed you feel sometimes, I know I will be glad when o.h. is back on proper shifts and out of my hair a bit more. His scrounging son has gone back to America for his free holiday, the girl who paid for him must be daft! At least he is out of the way for two weeks but he will never take responsibility for himself if he keeps getting carried through life by his Mother and Father and silly girls who he charms his way round. Last year's one got fed up with him pd1 and threw him out, wonder if this one will lol

Take care folks, and learn to put yourselves first sometimes, we all need some tlc and if no one else gives it us, we must take a little time for ourselves and treat ourselves kindly.
love and hugs,
Lizxxx


Betty, good to see you back, love.


Jude, glad things went well with your son.

Caz, at least you have a genuine reason for making errors, frustrating though it may be. I make loads, not being able to touch type, and am forever going back to correct them.

Gail, You are not stupid, you did what you felt was the sisterly thing to do, to give him a chance to accept the olive branch, his loss not yours if he is too immature to accept it. Next year you will know what to do.

Jude Lamb chops sound tasty, we have salmon and pasta tonight for a change, had enough meat over the past few days!! Hopefully we have enough food in the house to last until Tuesday!.

Ben you are right, it is just OCD. If you can remember that and not dwell on the problems it will be easier for you.

Claire, sorry I was not around last night, I am rarely on here after 10.30.

Vicky, good to see you being positive, hope you lose the pain soon.

Joyce, I feel sad for you and will think of you on your son's birthday. Have you any idea at all where in UK he may be? Have you tried looking on Friends Reunited to see if he is registered there? It is free now.

OH is busy fixing up a new TV that we bought for the kitchen this morning, a small flat screen. Now have the old one to dispose of, working OK but not digital or HD ready.

Ann
Glos

Afternoon everyone:o)

We're just about to pop out and do abit of nosh shopping. Lamb chops in oven with tatties and onions, but thought l'd say "hi" before we, off to sisters after:o)

Carole...thank you:o) hope you are doing ok x. Bless you l read the post about your daughter being with you for christmas.

Gail....l am sorry you have this situation with your brother, we have situations with a sister of mine and a brother of OH's, and we now just let them get on with it!
Hows the new baby, no doubt growing fast?? How old is she/he now (sorry can't remember), and hows your daughter?

Caz....if you knew how many times l have to go back and alter my many mistakes....grrrr, but with me its old age!! Take care:o)

Hello Dutch...perhaps he's just waiting for you to find him,l hope you do. Take care.

Everyone else .....l do hope you feel abit better today, keep positive, l know its not easy for some, but please try!!

love
jude :o) xx

Hi

I think some people like to be argumentative about things just for the sake of it but others probably dont always get the gist of things and cannot always see the obvious. They probably havent absorbed the facts and circumstances surrounding a family tree discovery and cannot see the obvious but if you did explain to them by showing the paper evidence, then they would probably click. Even when things are proven to be 100% correct people will still argue.

How many lawyers appeal against a 100% correct conviction of someone by an over intelligent judge who has proven it beyond doubt? Even then people will argue. Someone without OCD would just shrug it off and think no more of it knowing that they are right with what they have researched but us OCD sufferers seem to ruminate and worry over others illogical opinions.

I think the more I realise that, the more I know that it is just OCD and the thoughts are totally irrational.

Ben

Goodmorning everyone,thought i would just pop on as have,nt been on for week or so,but as its coming up soon to new year its sad time for me 49yrs ago this new years day i gave birth to my second loverly son we were always close,but over the last few years we have lost touch and i dont know were he is,can you understand every time it comes round i feel as if my heart is going to break in two,if only he knew i know he would be in touch as hes not the hurting kind,must,nt go on as im getting myself upset,but would like to wish you all happy new year when it comes and hope you all have better days in 2009.take care everyone
Dutchxxx

No Gail you are not stupid, just a loving sister who tries to do the right thing. Next year you will do the right thing and not bother he will realise what he missed.
I hope you are feeling a bit better now, not so down. At least you have your 'girls' to watch, I still envy you your hens. I can't get those hens out of my head that Liz told us about yesterday, the pictures upset me when I thought of mine when young (uncles really), shiny smooth feathers.
If only I could hold knitting needles I would be forever making them 'chucks tux', but blimey I can't even hold my knife and fork properly now. I am also noticing silly mistakes when typing, missed letters and hitting wrong key, so you will have to please excuse me, I suppose it is my illness getting worse, at least I can still type whatever rubbish comes out.

It never ceases to amaze me how Tinkerbelle can remember all the names, I can't remember hubbies sometimes, and as for my phone number, forget it.
Had a lovely quiet day yesterday, not even a phone call, bliss, same today as hubby is working again and we are still eating up from Christmas so he told me not to prepare anything for him to cook.
Time for another cuppa, hope you all have time to relax before the New Year celebrations start, can't be doing with it myself, every year is bad for me now so don't want another one.

Love and hugs to all

Caz xx

Have been avoiding this thread, reading though, as have made a complete nit of myself.

I did my usual chrissy shopping and purchased pressies for everyone as usual, yes even Brother. As sister was visiting Brother asked her to take their pressies as well. Though it might break the ice and he just may call to say thank you and Merry Christmas.

Did he call? NO! Did he say thank you? NO! Did he send a card? NO!

I am such an idiot. Not really surprised though and OH did warn me.

So now I will take Sharron's advice, good advice as well. Just thought it being Christmas may make a difference. And no it doesn't hurt any more. Just feel really stupid.

Gail

TINKERBELL, THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND THOUGHT.

WELL, AS USUAL, I HAD A BRILL XMAS DAY, BUT WAS ON A DOWNER ON XMAS EVENING WHEN THE FAMILY WENT HOME.
WAS THE SAME ON BOXING DAY.

WOKE SATURDAY IN PAIN, AND THEN FOUND I HAD YET ANOTHER COLD.

BUT, YOU KNOW WHAT, I STILL THANK GOD FOR EVERY DAY OF LIFE, AND WISH EVERYONE WHO IS FEELING LOW, A BELATED MERRY XMAS, AND A MUCH BETTER 2009.

XX

Tree Hunter it's citalopram!
Jude hi!!! Lovely to see you. Great news that your son is so well.
Daughter got me Bleak House set of DVD's for Xmas, sat and watched them all yesterday and today! Who shouted square eyes! xx

My membership is up in about ten days. Oh paid last year with his debit card. If I leave it will it just come out again?

Thanks Mary aand Kathy,

It be my mums birthday on the 9th of next month.

I know it will bit easyer next year.

Been talking to my sister she has got through it ok, she went to her sons. She was told she had cancer 3 mts before we found out mum had it.

But so far sister is ok.

Hope you both had a nice time.

((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))to everyone

Jude, spooky is all I can say.

Hello Everyone:o)
Got back from son's this afternoon, had a brilliant time, best my son has been in 3 yrs. Last yr he was soo psychotic!! He was even more brilliant with his baby son (19mths), yes!!!!:o))

Very strange thing has happen regarding presents from one of my sisters......sister from Sussex rang tonight to say "happy new yr etc", she mentioned she'd received a card from sister in cambridge which was'nt stuck down and a cheque was missing, that got my thinking "oh shite l did'nt open my present from her, and where is it!??", l then phoned sister in SWales, she had opened her present (same as mine apparently) and lost it in town!!!! Any idea's if there is a meaning behind this??

A really truely good. happy & healthy NEW YEAR to everyone:o)

jude xx

Treehunter

Know what you mean about your mum .It would have been my mum's birthday on boxing day and my parents anniversary too As a family we were always together for both xmas and boxing day

A sad reminder but miracles happen as my eldest nephew got engaged yesterday much to our surprise .He is 35 and we thought no one would have him !!!! I was ready to sell him on ebay as my sister thought he was home for keeps !!!

Nice to get good news for a change .

Carole what pills do you take for your memory as I want a bucket full !!!

Kathy xxx

My goodness Carole, all I have to say is : I second everything you've listed.
What a memory system you must have for remembering everyone.

Liz I DID supply plastic glasses for the children, (see I listen) - their Mum's glasses are high up in another cupboard, these were to replace the ones he'd broken previously. She was in the middle of washing them, and said, " I'd just like to have this complete set survive to be placed in the cupboard". then Sarah discovered the new shampoo and was covering the bathroom and giggling (when you hear her giggling you know there's mischief going on), so Mum left the kitchen to deal with her. I was in the lounge and heard the 'ping', got up instantly and was too late.

Treehunter, I miss my Mum terribly at Christmas also, she died early January and I have so many happy memories of her, I noticed this year that my one daughter had a big bag going from the start of opening presents, to catch the torn paper, and my other daughter and I said together "Great-Nainie would be proud". She couldn't stand helter skelter mess, even on Christmas Day. Try and dredge up happy memories, I send you a big hug.

Megan has had a very hard time dealing with Uncle Bill's death, she considered him her grandfather. We've only had one panic attack when we told her, late on Christmas Day, luckily her brother was here and caught her and held her while she slumped to the floor. When she came round all she could say was I have to get him a blanket, he's so cold. Bless her heart, she manages life so well despite her challenges, but I think this goes back to the night my mother died and she touched her a few minutes later and found her cold.

Now I am heading for work,
Catch you all later, stay safe, we are driving on ice today, after a night of heavy rain and freezing temps. The hip deep snow is down to a thin layer on the lawn. Good riddance say I.
Mary

Reason so down is every year would be with mum for few days, but now she has gone dont have that anymore.

Its first year so knew this would be a hard few days.

Got my daughter and grand daughter comeing back from scotland on the 30th, so having xmas day again on the 31st, as got gifts all there to open as well. So that be nice.

I will be ok after tomoro.

Thanks alot

Happy new year to you all

Hi All, Phew that was a long list Carole, only holidays sort of booked so far, 4 weeks at the apartment in Tenerife in may and one week at our Lake District Timeshare in June. holding fire really as the euro is so low.

Mary, I would do what Liz suggests. Get some realistic looking glass wine glasses and other glasses and lock the real glass ones away up high until the children are asleep. Little one's cuts could have been so much worse and it would remove one worry for you. I hope that working part time gives you some respite, you will wear yourself out if youc arry on like you are.

YCaz, glad you at least managed to have a go at cooking the Christmas dinner. next year you can share in the cooking by giving your OH instructions on what to do. (A together thing).

treehunter, sorry you are feeling down, hopefully some time spent with your son will help you a bit.

Ann
Glos

So pleased you have sorted it out. Sorry yto hear that about your sister.

Thinking of you.

Yesterday was bad for me, I feel down again today, but trying to cope with it best i can.

Sons picking me up about 12.30 tonite to take me back with him.

Christmas passed of reasonably uneventfully apart from my sister deciding to drink her self in a stupor on xmas eve and xmas day leaving her 13 yr old son to fend for himself. spent and hour on xmas day putting her tree up and sorting the place out with the help of her son and my daughter whilst she slept 2 bottle of wine off.

Then yesterday evening she supposed to come round for a meal but never turned up didnt even ring me this morning to say sorry.

She has become her own self-fulfilling prophecy depression is my life therefore my life is depression and she doesn't want to get better because she perceives that if she dose she will have no life! ( her words not mine)

But on a personal note I did give my friend from work the letter i wrote to her and it led to an honest and open dialogue and we now understand each other a lot better.