General Chat

Hi all and hope you have a pain free day ((hugs))
Vods how did it go yesterday and the council? and hope you get your knee gets looked at
Eileen, yes you have to think about the good helpers otherwise it eats you up
Sharron glad your dad is getting more independent, such shame about the village driver they don't realise the harm they do, they just moan about everything.
Love and Peace to all hurting
xxxx
CarolB

Another b***dy frustration.There is a community mini-bus in the village. The man who organizes it knows better than me in all things,ask him.He likes to tell you about all the good he does in the village and all the old people he looks after.

Twice a month the mini-bus goes to the next village for an hour or so.It was taking a couple of the old people to the post office and the shops,our village only has a garage and no post office.

It has been a big psychological step to get my dad out for that hour twice a month,he is now going to go to the village lunch. He is not ill any more,he is becoming independant.

The man insists on my dad having a carer with him on the bus.We get up very early and go into town to collect his mate.The man was whining about how hard it was to get the seat out for the wheelchair to go in.We get up even earlier to get his mate to the man's house to help him take the seat out and put it back in when they come back.

Now one of the old people has left the village and the other has had a fall and can't get out so the man doesn't want to go to the next village any more.He moaned about taking the seat out so that my dad could hear and I know he will do the same about taking him on his own.

Yes,I could drive the mini-bus but that is not what it's about.That is me taking him somewhere,he needs to go out independantly.

My dad has made such great strides forward that I really don't want this man,who will be trumpeting it about the village how much he has put himself out,knocking him back.

I keep telling myself I am coping but sometimes I think it might be easier to organize a coronation!

morning all well as you can see its 5.05 and still wide awake i managed to get two hours sleep ,and am now wide awake .so i thought id pop on and wish you all a lovly day and hope it is a good one for all hugs elaine xx

Hi all, I am so sorry I forgot to put a message on from our Betty, she mailed me yesterday to say she was thinking about everyone, well I think it was yesterday - haven't looked back further so maybe it was Saturday and I did put it on here. My brain is so fuddled with all that is going on and will explain some of it later on when all is sorted out.
Anyway Betty wants you all to know she is thinking of everyone and sending her love, bless her. Things are just ticking over for her with her son and daughter, and have to hope S keeps taking his medication to stay ok.
love and hugs
Lizxxx

Hi YCaz, passed your message to Gill and she says thanks, she is OK.

ann
Glos

Vicky, too true, use your money- If you have it.I didn't/don't, but that was not the point, the so-called nurses were not that,most were just girls with no nursing experience at all. We needed those who could lift her properly.get her showered and dressed, something I could not do, due to my physical state.Most of the girls/women were very nice, kind people, but one was sooo nasty,kept on at my aunt for not speaking Dutch, kept saying. "these people who come into our country, but can't be bothered to speak our language".It infuriated me, but I kept schtum.Poor auntie was almost deaf, in spite of her hearing aids, suffered badly from tinnitus, and had a horrible neurological condition, which eventually caused her not to be able to move at the end.But, she understood what the b***h was saying.
Have tried to stop thinking about those horrific last years of my auntie's life, tried to get rid of the anger, at the way some doctors and so-called helpers treated her.Not all, just a handfull, which was too many back then, but it is like fighting windmills.

It's a shame that so many retired people saved for private pensions, as they are paying for it now, by the government penalising them. Just as well to spend what you have as you say Eileen, cos you get thanks for having money in the bank.

A friend of mine cared for her hubby who suffered from MS for 20yrs and manged to work part time when he was first diagnosed, but gave up work to look after him when his condition worsened. She said the lack of support for carers is terrible. I must agree with that, as I have seen this from many people. She said when a nurse was supposed to come in to help him at night, it was sometimes a young girl with no nursing training, who wouldn't have a clue.
I'm interested in finding out what the new rules for IB are, and how they will affect me.

Vicky, I won't even go into details about that 'odd woman'. Wierd is a better word.Have come accross a lot of people like her, both men and women.I have no time for them whatsoever.There are sooo many nice, normal, decent folks around. They are far more important.Am very sorry to hear that you are having such a terrible time with your neigbours though, especially as you are far from well.
I recieved nothing when my aunty lived in my house.The poor love needed 24/7 attention, as she could not really move anymore, but we only got a 'nurse'(not always, just a helper) to come now and then to wash her. It was a very difficult time the poor little mite, God bless her. It still hurts to think about that terrible time.

Eileen x.

If Deanna has any money they want to start shifting it round pretty soon or they will end up paying through the nose for or going without things they might otherwise get for nothing.

We have carers three times a day because my dad has nothing.His cousin who has also had a stroke but did very well on buying and re-selling his council house,has too much money in the bank to get any of this free.Rather than re-distribute a bit round the family or make a contribution his wife, at nearly eighty herself,is wearing herself into a wreck by doing it all. He doesn't even have an electric wheelchair so she pushes him everywhere.

I understand saving for a rainy day but I do wonder how much rain they are expecting.

I have sciatica at the moment because I hurt my back yesterday putting my dad to bed with the hoist.I dread to think what his cousin's wife,who has children my age,must be suffering,all for the sake of saving a few bob!

Sorry, but I missed a lot when I was off, but can't recall Gill. Take it certain people were making snide remarks. Would like to wish her and everyone else who is having problems the very best.

Eileen, there's one in every street like that. My neighbour is so far up her own a..e. lol


(((hugs to all)))

Afternoon all,

Elaine, sorry to hear that your hubby is so unwell.Hope he picks up very soon.
Caz, wish that your pain meds. could be sorted a.s.a.p.
Vicky, I was thinking of you yesterday, when a neighbour a couple of doors down had a drum band playing the same old drum roll over and over.We had to laugh, because she is an awful snob, has always looked down on other people in the street, saying how loud their music is sometimes etc., and now had that racket going on in her own house!.Actually, this street has changed beyond all recognition since 'certain elements' have been given the old heave ho.My next door neighbours because they had a cannabis factory in their garage and attic.I had no idea that they were doing this, didn't smell a thing, but the woman I mention here, said she knew all about it, was just about to phone the police.Mind you, this was a couple of days after they were turfed out.Easy to be wise after the event!Have lovely neighbours now.It is so nice to hear the little ones playing in the garden.In dry weather, I throw their ball back an x times per day, normal people thus.
Gail, wish that I could play granny to chickens!
Ann, thank goodness you have contact with Gill.It is sooo horrible how some gang up on weaker people.In the wild, sick, thus weaker animals are picked on by others too.Seems like it happens on GR too.Thank God this thread is still a safe place, or will certain 'nasties' start picking on us soon? Worrying!
Deanna is sorely missed by all of us, she is such a nice, kind, funny person. I miss her too, but also for a selfish reason.

Love to all.

Eileen x

Hi everyone. Glad the tabs helping a bit Caz, and you're not having nasty side effects.

I gonna ring tomorrow for an appt.
I was up early this morning, and limped down to the local co-op to get bread and milk for the kids coming, but it was a lovely crisp morning, and I enjoyed the walk, as I had been in all weekend.
Just waiting for the council to come to collect the sound recording equipment, so will see what they say. Not expecting any miracles. They've just rung to say they're sending somebody now.

hi Caz, will do, pleased you are OK.

Elaine sorry that hubby is not well and I hope they can find a solution for him. It is worrying for you I know but he is in the right place. You look after yourself, if you are poorly you wont be able to get to see him. I do hope he feels better soon.

Ann
glos

hi everyone ,well just a quick update went and seen hubby yesterday he looks very tired ,and got told of by the nurse he wasnt feeling to good hot dizzy and few cheast pains and he didnt tell them at first ,they had a firm word with him and orderd him to bed ,ive just rang him and the docter had been to see him this morning and as hubby is feeling unwell he orderd more tests and x rays he still in iv drip and jabs in stomach and they trying to get his warafrin inr right so i dont think he be home yet for a while ,hugs to all a so worried elaine xxx

Thanks for that Ann, will you tell her I am sending a big hug for her next time you speak to her.
I am ok at the moment, the tablets are better for me but not strong enough even with the fast booster one.

Caz xx

I am in contact with Gill Caz. She is OK, just fed up with being targeted all the time.

hope you are OK.

Ann
Glos

Morning everyone, it's a lovely crisp autumn morning here, sunshine and blue skies, wonder how long it will last.
Vicky I am shocked that not one of your doctors have looked at your knee, please make an appointment with the new one and ask him to look at it, you can't be expected to put up with it.

Has anyone heard from Gill, I don't know what happened but I hope she is alright.

Also thinking of Deanna, I haven't heard how she is doing last couple of days.

Love and hugs to everyone.
Caz xx

good morning everyone, i hope you all have a good day and that the pains will be held at bay for you. Lovely crisp sunny morning here today.

Ann
Glos

Sorry have not been on as much. Playing granny to 20 chickens just hatched is hard work.

Very shocked that Gill has left, if you are looking in Gill you will be missed. Loved your hugs.

Carole, when do you leave, any room in your bag for an extra 80 kilo???

Be back later.

Gail

Good morning. Good luck to anyone off to their doctors today. Less pain to those in pain.
I'm off to work so Cra***** it as usual! See you all tonight.xx