General Chat

Dear Sharron, if it's a 'man cold' you'll be down for ages,LOL. Have you seen the sketch on You Tube about 'man cold'. Shall I send you some homemade chicken soup? or perhaps your Dad could feed you some blackerries. . . . Our fruit season is almost finished except for apples, how about you, has the last last bowl of berries been picked, and jam production ceased? I am going to do "Yankee chutney" this weekend (apples,raisins, rhubarb).

After nearly 3 weeks my computer/internet issues seem to have been resolved, for those who were concerned that I was supposedly stuck in London and unable to get home, thank you for your concern. I assure you that, had I been heading for the UK, you would have heard me loud and clear!! The only remaining issue is that I have lost my entire email address book,coud those with whom I had email contact previously, please contact me if I haven't sent you an update of my email address. My email from the previous address is being forwarded for a month.

We are in crisis mode with Sir Gareth. he has been removed from his classroom and is now in a 'resource room' with 2 teachers aides full-time, because of aggression. This started on Monday and I must say he has been tired and MUCH calmer at home since Monday. We await a specialist appt on Dec 1st., in the meantime his Mum is consulting with a naturopathic doctor,who feels very strongly that an anxiety disorder is the root of the behaviours. Having felt annoyed initially, I now concur, he has him started on some new supplements and a low-oxalate diet. It would make sense as I and his Mum have both struggled with anxiety, also his auntie Meg and uncle David and his maternal grandfather.

We had an amazing day last Saturday, as my daughter Colleen graduated from Uni, with her degree, plus an advanced diploma in behaviour Science. The icing on the cake was that her father (and his wife) made the trip to attend the convocation exercises. it was truly a healing day, it is almost 20 years since Dave and meg had seen him,a lot of negativity had developed over the years, and it has now started to be addressed and healing has begun. Colleen was in tears - for her the highlight of the day was to see both her parents in the same room, chatting normally and comfortably. I had been a basket-case for a few days prior, how was I going to feel, what to say etc? I surprised myself, by only tearing up once, and feeling such a sense of relief and joy.

love
mary

J am here Mary but I am feeling well rough.It couldn't be man flu could it!?

Where is everyone?
nudging to keep the lifeline alive.
mary

I am sending flowers to Dutch if anyone would like to join me please send a PM

Thank you very much for the lovely flowers Dutch collected for which I took to the crematorium for my Dad today. We had a collection plate with donations to go to the stroke ward at our local hospital, where Dad went seven years ago after the very bad stroke which took him from us in mind but not body. His death on 2 Oct took what remained. We raised £217 which I'm sure will help buy something to help those unfortunate to have had a stroke and need caring for. My Mum took comfort from a medium with (loose) family connections. (B I L's step mum). She told Mum he spoke to her this morning, and was at the crem and the reception afterwards. The service was lovely, and it was so good to have many family and friends there to help us through the day.

Hello Joyce, I think that there may be other reasons nobody has been on this thread. I believe that been some nice weather in the UK, so people may be making hay while the sun shines. Or else they are just a little bit down.
I sent my condolences to Carole, and hope she is doing OK. It must be a busy time for her, making arrangements etc.
Catch you later- I have to check up on the Australian thread. Possibly 150 posts since Friday.

Good morning to all you lovely folk out there......

I sense that for the last few days our thoughts have been overtaken with grief for our Joyce who sadly lost her beloved daughter. I myself feel so at a loss to help in any way but like the rest of you who have sent her messages of prayer and consolation, I pray she will gain some comfort from knowing we are there for her, as we are for each other....

May today be a quiet and pleasant one for you all as you go about your daily chores, for those of you in pain I wish you better days, for the lonely one's out there, take heart.....


Joyce P xxxxxx

Sharron, I am pleased that you are feeling happier with the world now. Yes it must be strange not to always feel stressed so enjoy it.

Mary, you poor love, your family suffers so much. Does the absent father have problems accepting the behaviour of Gareth and Sarah? I suppose, if he doesn't live with them, it must be difficult for him to come to terms with it. But it is no excuse, they are his children and it is unfair that their Mum and you carry all the burden. But then when things do go right he doesn't share the satisfaction and joy either so maybe it is he who is the loser.

Poor tortured soul Gareth, I feel for him and hope that he is able to find help soon, for all your sakes, it must be so stressful for you all. Dec 1st for an urgent appointment, does thatr eflect how many problem children there are do yout hink?

People can be unkind but to be fair to them, there are so many badly behaved children around that we forget there are some who are like it through no fault of their own. But there is no excuse for rudeness. Does the dog wear a 'disability' type harness? If so this should alert people to the fact that there is a problem.

I hope you can get some respite soon Mary.


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Dear Sharron, so glad you are re-asserting yourself, personally I think you are a gem.
Sorry I've been AWOL recently, we are having a very difficult time with Gareth. To hear his mother say he is "uncontrollable" is so painful. I have started having to take something for sleep so am not on the computer in the evening as I was.
The school spends all day managing Gareth's behaviours rather than his learning anything.
His "emergency appointment' with a developmental paediatrician is booked for Dec1st. It was initially requested in June. Hate to think how long a non-urgent appt would take.
We have reached the point of not taking him out to shops etc as he manages to wriggle out of his belt and escape the dog, keeps bolting as soon as he's approached. Of course, onlookers assume he is a badly behaved child, meanwhile his mother is barely able to control her tears when people are rude, swear at the child and her... not a pretty scene. Rarely does anyone offer to help.I am so saddened for him, he appears almost "tortured", and unable to express his feelings, frustrations, anger etc.
Em has announced she no longer has a "Dad", she refers to the absent parent by his first name, another child with suppressed anger. Speaking of their birth father, he now hasn't contacted the kids since early June. They notice and are hurt.
Please know that I am thinking of you all, but am exceptionally emotionally overloaded at present.
Love and hugsall round,
Mary

Sharron, it must feel odd, I would just try to make the most of it while it lasts lol

Lizxxx

I have been aware for many years that I have been under unbearable stress all my life.It lifted a lot when my mother died and ,with the help of my wonderful hypnotherapist, more has left me over the years. Also I have carefully observed how my partner treats me and, rather than become frustrated by trying to improve things, to his horror, I treat him just the same now.
Now I don't seem to have any stress.Oh dear,it does feel odd.Is this how people normally feel? Is this how I should have always felt?I certainly don't want it back but it does feel strange.

Glad they have arrived OK and I hope they go some way to helping you through this time Carole.

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Can I just say a huge thank you to Joyce and my friends for the lovely flowers that arrived this morning. I was suprised. Thanks also for the cards
and kind words of support on here. xxx

I am doing good now. I am glad the hot sticky summer is over and we now have cool autumn weather. I like the sunny days in the cooler weather autumn and winter sun.

thanks Colin, where has everyone been. Hope all are well and that carole is coping at this sad time for her family.

Just nudging it up.

Carole has text me to let you all no her Dad has pass away have put thread up on General for her,are thoughts and prayers are with her and her family at this very sad time
Dutchx

Have you seen the tinkerbelle thread? Dad very poorly now. We were called to the hospital yesterday lunch time. Told he had only hours left. Some of us left the hospital at 8:50 last night. Sister and three (grown up ) kids stayed longer. BIL took mum back home to collect tablets and change of clothes then back to their home for the night. No call from hospital in the night x

I think whoever wrote that article should be made a saint and am so pleased I found it.
Let us hope that Carole is just the first of many who will benefit from it.
Ultimately I would like no child to ever go through what we did again.

Yesterday I went to the Dr's. I have a flu like virus. Have another week off work. Mum just phoned to see how I am. I listened to her for 15 mins!!! My comments just weren't heard. God she can talk. I miss you she said! I should have said get a taxi then! My sister took mum to visit dad yesterday. Going again today. He was very sleepy yesterday so they didn't stay long. His legs are very swollen and bandaged up. I said to Mum didn't you see a nurse to ask why? Well no, one had over heard mums complaining that dad was asleep for visiting time, and said he had been in his wheelchair since 9am, and had his dinner sat up, fed himself, and wanted to get back in bed.

Colin take it easy. Don't do too much work!!

Liz we all became invisible after my sisters first baby!

Ann it's thanks to Sharrons thread, narcistic mothers that helped me realise there was this underlying problem with me and my mum. Once I learnt that I could start to learn it's not my fault always. But its a hard habit to break .x