General Chat

Goodness Huia, thinking about all that makes me feel tired too. But you are filling your time with lots of things to do and I am sure you are enjoying most of them, they will fill the emptiness left by Phil not being with you. Hope he is awake when you visit.

Liz, try and make a list of the things that need doing that day, sometimes things look overwhelming but are manageable if broken down into bite sized chunks. Don't start by thinking "all this must be done today", think I will do a couple of things today. If your OH needs things doing that he is unable to do because of work add them and slot them in when you can. But if he is giving you things he can do in his time off make a list for him too and say you haven't got time to do them. Ticking things off on a list, even simple things like 'make the bed' gives a great sense of satisfaction. And if you are still tired do what you would advise others, go and see your doctor.

I hope that the doctor can sort you out Liz. If the flipping jab did not help
would tablets be any better,do you think. You certainly cannot continue like this,it's wearing you out.
As Ann said,make your OH do his share. Listen to me,who's OH does B-all. But then I have always been organised,like starting my christmas present buying in January. And wrapping them as I buy them. When the grandchildren open their christmas presents,on xmas day,I am as surprised as them,because I always forget what I buy them.
Huia,it definately sounds like you are suffering from hayfever,if your eyes
started to play you up,after cutting the grass.
Defo a good enough reason for getting the man in to do it for you. Just make sure you shut all the doors and windowsw,whilst he is cutting it though.
You have got a few busy days coming up,so enjoy yourself,without overdoing it.
Sallie,thank you so much for the lovely card,I received it this morning.
How are you today? Have you been out and about shopping.?
Big ~~~~~~to Jean,Marie,Sylvia,Debbie, Marilyn and all our cyber friends.
Speak to you soon. Love Mo xxx

Hello everyone, sorry I havent been on lately lots going on at home, most of it not good....but thats another story.... Sallie thank you for your card, next time you can make them....lol...please dont all get upset if I am not on as usual. but I have reason for it... when things get better as I am sure they will, given time, I will be back...I would be very grateful if you would say a little prayer for me, I am finding everything hard to cope with at the moment....just thought you deserve some explanation....I will keep looking in from time to time...

love to you all.Jean xx

Lots of prayers and positive thoughts winging your way Jean, thank you for letting us know you are OK. Come back to us soon we miss you and care about you. xxx

Hi Everyone,

Just a quick look in before I go to do food shopping, not a job I enjoy.

Jean, lovely to see you on the thread, Ann speaks for us all when she said we really miss you on here. Just take care of yourself and hope your problems, whatever they are, will soon come right. My thoughts are with you. Glad you received the card, and yes, next year I hope to make my own cards, Jennie also wants to make cards, so we'll start by making some together, although Jennie is a bit like Alun, not very artistic, so we'll wait and see how she goes.

Mo, pleased you received the card this morning. I hope that I'll be able to make them for next year. I haven't had a good few days, felt worse yesterday after speaking to the therapist, although she's very nice, as Ann suggested last week, I think the therapist helps bring things to the front of my mind. We'll wait and see! Mo, just like you I've always started my Christmas present buying in January, but not this year, I only started a few weeks ago, and still have a few left to buy. You made me ckuckle when you told us about when your grandchildren opened their presents.
Nearly forgot to ask , have they finished your kitchen? Hope they have.

Ann, hope eveything is alright with you and T, and that you are all organised for Christmas. I'm hoping to get Alun to scan the scrapbook pages into the computer tonight so that I can send them to you. It's a job I can't do myself, so have to wait for him to do it for me. When you said that you thought that the hotel in Torquay wasn't as good as the last time you were there. I found that with the hotel we stayed in, in New York on 7th Avenue. We stayed there for a week in 2005, and then again in 2007, and I don't think it was a good. The rest of the family thought it was okay, so maybe I'm just fussy.

Liz, hope you will soon get organised. As I've written my cards this year I posted them and given them out to friends and family. I think thats the only way I could cope this year. Have you still got more presents to buy? Hope you get on alright at the doctors next week. It's got really difficult trying to make an appointment at our surgery. Alun has to see the nurse, but he was told when he rang up yesterday, that to make an appointment with the nurse patients have to ring between twelve and two o-clock. So he wasn't a 'happy bunny'.

Huia, you seem to be very busy with the choir. I hope your eyes are feeling a bit better. It looks as though cutting the grass has made your eyes worse. Please be careful! Hope Phil is a bit better and awake when you visit him. I'm thinking of you both!

I sent a pm to Debbie, it's been opened but haven't had a reply. I hope her and the family haven't got swine flu, I know some of the childrens friends had it. Hope all is okay with you and your family.

Sue, Marie, Marilyn and Grace hope you are all alright.

Must go now, might look in later. Take care!

Love, Sallie.xxx

Sorry, that was supposed to be quick and I've waffled on and on!

Love, Sallie.xx

Sallie,as you put it,waffle as much as you like,it helps to talk.
Sorry you had another bad day yesterday. But talking it out with the therapist,may be hard for you,but could eventually bring to the fore,what it is that is ailing you.
Keep fighting this thing,we are here for you love.
Jean.(BIG HUGS) Thinking off you,and praying for you also. It's good to hear from you. Be strong.
Hi Ann,I have not forgotten you. Hows things your end.

Hi MO and everyone

Just had another lovely day here ........... sunny and blue skies, but at or below freezing. The s**w word has been mentioned for the weekend.

Have just got back to doing a bit more walking .............. on Monday I walked the half-mile or so down to the coffee shop to meet OH in the afternoon. That's the first time I've done that for literally months ................ he's either come home to get me, or I've taken the 2 buses that go round the other 3 sides of the square that's involved, and take about twice as long as for me to walk the 4th side!

I managed to do it yesterday and today ........ but I was a little sore again today, so I may have to watch it tomorrow (Thursday).

Slow but steady. That's me!!

Hope you are all well



sylvia
xxx

Sylvia, you must have been so chuffed with yourself for walking to the coffee shop Hope you can do things like that again soon but not so you do yourself a damage!
Huia, hope the eyes will be ok again soon, I think you have to stick a note up to remind yourself that mowing makes your eyes sore so not to do it! Great that you can find someone to come and do that chore for you. Take care.

I was on tablets for the vit d for two months before I had the jab, it was supposed to help more as of higher strength and to last for a year so going back on tabs probably won't help unfortunately.
I have had this tiredness for a long time now about 11 years and it's connected to the fibromyalgia as I never wake up refreshed which is due to not having the right kind of sleep for long enough. I also have chronic fatigue syndrome which is often linked to fm.

Ann, I never know from day to day how I will feel so do what I can when I can and try to do something that will shut him up to make life easier lol
Yesterday I left him a note to switch the washing machine on before he left for work, as it was all ready for doing the sheets etc then when I got up (he brings me up a cuppa before he goes at 1.30pm and sometimes I get up soon after or sometimes I fall asleep again, have to sleep when I can as well) Anyway I came downstairs about 3pm and the machine hadn't been switched on, so it was late when I got things out to dry and had to have them hanging round lounge as it's the only room with any heat source, try to have them out of his way when he gets home as he moans and groans, don't know if he thinks I have a blasted magic wand that can dry laundry, he moans if I use the drier because of the electricity and in truth, I prefer not to use it except for towels sometimes. ) Then I washed a coat and fleece jacket to freshen them up, did some Christmas cards and cooked myself dinner, made a phone call and cleaned an electric radiator/heater I saw on gumtree and sent him to buy, so he can fix it in the bathroom for the winter. It's so cold in there since he took the other heater out (there is no gas central heating here!) He still hasn't finished the decorating or tiling and the rest of the things from two years ago when he started fitting a shower over the bath and redoing the room, the dirty old carpet is still down, walls are dark brown which was the colour his wife chose to have them painted when they first moved in, in the early 80s and then he papered over them in a tile effect paper, never had proper tiles in there before! We have the new paper to put on which we got months ago but he has to sort out a bath panel and finish tiling round the sink and decide on the colour for the top half of walls etc etc.
It all has to tone in with a yellowy gold bath suite, Sun King it was called when it was new! lol I bet he will finish it in a hurry if his scrounger son manages to get the money to bring his wife over from N.Y. next year!
So you can see I do get several things done but didn't get out again which I wanted to do, my day is half gone before I start lol and that's partly the reason I have the vit d deficiency, cos I don't see much daylight in winter.
I want to go out today and do some shopping etc and then write lots more cards - it's easier when he isn't here to concentrate and write them all, have about 100 to write but almost all are for the uk now and just one for Malta after I have checked on how my son's Nan is doing so I know what to write in the card.
Well I had better finish off on here and get to bed soon, he worked late cos some machinery broke down and the relief chap couldn't do it on his own, so he stayed on a while, not getting home till almost midnight. Means he will sleep a bit later today and then be pottering about making his food for work and doing some more recording of old cine film onto a disc for his sons, he spends hours doing things like that but does do a few discs of prorammes I have recorded and want to keep too so I suppose I mustn't complain.
take care all
love to those I haven't mentioned,

Lizxx

Hi all.

Please take care of yourself Liz, we would all hate to see you vanish from the boards.

I visited Phil this morning. He was asleep as usual. I will have to try to get there at 6am, but then I think the visiting hours dont start until 10, and anyway I dont fancy leaving home at 5am. I did some shopping back in Papakura, bought a couple of rugs for the bedroom as the mats we have in there were given to us 50 yrs ago. These rugs are larger. We dont have carpet. It is much easier to clean with rugs.

Huia.

Hi All,

Huia, sorry that Phil was asleep again when you visited him. As you say you can't visit too early in the morning, besides the visiting hours starting at ten, it would be far too early in the morning for you to travel there.
Just hope he'll be awake when you go to see him next time. How are you and how is the choir practise going.? It's good that you are able to do something that you enjoy doing, you're also meeting others and it helps to break up your day. Good luck with the concert!

Sylvia, glad to hear that you have been able to do quite a bit of walking over the last couple of days. Try not to do too much though, slowly but surely. I hope you don't mind me asking where in Canada you live? Alun, my hubby, has a cousin in Vancouver, and a cousin of mine lived in Toronto for quite a few years.

Liz, you seem to have a lot of thngs to do. Like you I'm trying to keep the washing and ironing up to date ready for Christmas. Richard and his girlfriend Christie are coming to spend Christmas with us, they are coming on Christmas Eve, after work, so am trying to get organised by then. Not an easy task when suffering from a ' funny ' head. You know what I mean, don't you? I hope you feel a bit better and less tired, so that you can get most, if not all your jobs done.

Jean, I'm hoping and praying that things will be better for you very, very soon. Thank you for letting us all know why you won't be on very much in the near future. Just look after yourself and take care.

Mo and Ann, how are things with you both today? I hope everything is okay!
I'll speak to you later, I've got to try and wrap a few more Christmas
presents.

Love and best wishes to you all. Love, Sallie.xxx

Good afternoon everyone.
So good to hear from you.
Well done Sylvia,keep plodding slowly but surely. By this time next year,you will be back running like a spring chicken. Keep your spirits up.
Liz,do you feel like me sometimes,ie,throttling him.
Do you know,I firmly believe that their laziness,starts during their childhood.
My OH was an only child,and consequently was really cosseted by his mum,bless her.
She would have still been wiping his backside,at 16 if she had had her way.
It made him what he has become today,totally reliant on the woman in his life,ME. LOL
Huia,I don't know what to suggest about Phil being asleep,during your visits. Would the nursing home be able to suggest anything do you think.
Perhaps,if they know you are coming to visit,they could reduce the tablet
that is making him so drowsy.
What colour rugs did you buy for the bedroom.?
Well,I have news at last,re my grandaughter and her cervical cancer.
The darned thing is back again. She has to go into hospital on christmas eve,to have it removed. She also has an enlarged ovary,and they think she may have polycistic ovaries.
Apparantly,when she went for her last check up,they removed some off the cells then,but they have come back yet again.
Oh my god,when I think that her flaming doctor,would not give her,her smear test in the first place,I could scream.
I just thank god she is such a stubborn mare,and insisted on it being done.
Sorry to load my worries on you all. But god willilng,she will be o.k.
Love to you all. Mo xxx

Sylvia, an achievement for you by walking that half mile, well done. Don't envy you the prospect of snow.

Sallie, just do a little bit each day, it will get done, and I am sure that they wont notice when they come for Christmas, especially if you have some decorations around, difficult to clean when the decs are up isn't it?

Liz, well you got a good bit done then by the looks of it. We had a sun King suite here when we moved in 1992, soon got shot of it and had a cream suite though as it made our fairly small bathroom very dark.

Mo I am so sorry to hear about the return of your granddaughters cancer, christmas Eve is a strange day to have to have it done, wonder why they didn't try and fit her in before. Is it a day visit?

Hi Mo, I'm really sorry to hear about your granddaughter's cancer coming back, I hope that the operation she has will remove it once and for all. Please give her my very best wishes, I'll be thinking about her.

Love, Sallie.xx

MO, like all the others I am sending my best wishes to your granddaughter. I just hope that the results are the very best Christmas present she has ever had.

To everybody else who has a problem, may you also receive good health for Christmas and the New Year. Anybody without health problems also has my very best wishes for a Happy Christmas and wonderful New Year.

Sorry I cant comment on things others have said, I get dizzy scrolling down to see who has said what and up again to type - I dont have the magnificent memory that enables me to read it all and then remember what was said and by whom, while I type up here.

Huia.

Hello my friends.
This is just a quicky. I am on my son's lappy,as mine is going in for repair tommorrow.
The charger has decided to pack up,and one off the buttons has given up the ghost.
Thank goodness,we have got the insurance on it.
So I will bid you all cheerio for now. BUT I will return as soon as possible.
I shall miss our chats,and all off you as well.
Take care my friends,speak to you as soon as I can.
Love to you all. Mo xxx

Ooh Mo, you will be missed, it will be quiet on here as I am away for two days Saturday and Sunday too, taking the Christmas presents to our daughter's.

Hi Mo, and everyone

you will be missed!! We'll have to keep our fingers crossed that it doesn't take long to get your 'puter repaired.

I'll be away all over Christmas

We fly north on Dec 22 to spend Christmas with OH's sister, returning on the 28th. She lives about 500- 600 miles further north, as the crow flies .......... we're definitely assured of having a white Christmas!

There'll also be a "littly" as her middle daughter and husband have just moved back to that town, and they have an 18-month old. Long time since we've had a Christmas with such a young 'un.

It also means that we won't decorate the house, or have to get in and prepare loads of food :)))



very cloudy today, never got above -1C ........ and "they" are talking 15-20 cm snow possible over Saturday and Sunday.

I'm just hoping that it will do what it usually does ..... bypass Vancouver!!!




sylvia
xxx

Mo, I am so sorry to hear about your granddaughter and hope things go ok for her. I get so angry at mistakes made by doctors, they can be very lax and inefficent sometimes, can't they? Thank heavens your gdaughter pushed for tests.


Huia, don't worry I will do my best to stay online as much as I can over the next few weeks, due to renew gr in Feb and definitely plan to stick around! Hope you get to find Phil awake when you next visit, it's such a shame but I suppose better he is sleeping than upset or something. There was a programme on last evening about singing with Alzheimer sufferers, apparently singing is good at delaying the symptons so keep up with your choir Huia! It was very moving to see the couples together and dancing as well some of them. Such an awful illness.

Mo, throttle him?? not half? I watched the above programme and saw how close some of those older couples were, even while one of them had Alzheimers so wasn't really with it, the love was so deep it was a joy to see. Out in the city I saw couples shopping and enjoying the hustle and bustle and wonder why I ever got attached even as slightly as I did, to o.h. He has no idea how to be supportive, or joyful. When we used to go shopping together in the early days, late 90s, he would either walk away to go to the loo without telling me and I would be standing there looking round for him like an idiot, or he would make an excuse he wanted to go to the loo and scoot off for a drink at the nearest pub. Then when he finally came back and I had been standing in one place in the store waiting for him, or when I finally found him, he would be stupid or aggressive because of the alcohol. Some times when he has disappeared without a word or said he was going to the loo, he would be gone a while and so I would get a message put out on the tannoy to get him to go to the customer services desk. He is wise to that now tho so ignores it and rarely carries his mobile with him, if he does it's usually switched off!

Sylvia, that will be a lovely change for you over Christmas with a littly to share the magic. Have a great time.

Sallie, thanks for the pretty card, it was at my house when I went last evening to pick up mail, there was a huge pile behind the door lol The house next door has been sold at last, I miss my neighbour who lived there, maybe I would have stayed at my house more had she not moved out as I used to do a lot for her and she would let me use her bath as I had no hot water. Hope there are some nice people moving in there. The last owner let it out, but only to an employee of his at his restaurat so wonder who will be there next.

Btw, Sallie, you live in the same area as my late cousin's widow and some of her sons, do you know any Neves?

Will not be on much tomorrow till late evening as o.h. on different shift and I might try to get the bus to the city as it's free, he takes the car on Fridays while he is on this 9-4 shift, cos he won't cycle through the busy traffic at 8.30am or again at 4.10pm. I did get some of my shopping done yesterday but couldn't get to some places as too far to walk from where I had to park the car - this time I can get the bus to almost outside the shop I need and then walk around a bit getting other items to get the bus at a different stop. Also means I will be out when uglymug gets home so he can chillout after work for a while and might be in a good mood when I get back.

Ann, he wouldn't change the Sun King suite as he hates white bathroom suites, I never realised when I first met him what a strange person he was, has some very odd ideas, no style at all.

take care all,
love
Lizxxx

Hi Everyone including Sylvia from Canada, It has taken me some time to read the last 3pages of posts,and I like Huia get dizzy trying to remember what every one has said.
Mo I got your email I was able to open the pictures but not the untitled letter, I hope you get the puter repaired.I was sad to hear of your grand daughters news I will mention her in my prayers.We have also had bad news Brian, my son-in-law found out last week that his mother has colon cancer she has been to a specialist this week and we should get some more news sometime next week,Lorraine is her name and she is only 60yrs.,& she is such a lovely lady.Sallie you are doing well to manage keep up the good fight.you to sparkly Ann,Hello Liz you are busy also. Has any one heard from Debbie ????June I am thinking of you hope everything is sorted very soon.
You may have seen on the news that we have had bushfires all over NSW and yes only 20klms from Bathurst. a Father & son (farmers )were burnt very badly& were Airlifted to Sydney We have had Water bombing Helicopters Going overhead our house for Days in an effort to control the Fire,unfortunately the high winds are making it very difficult to control. We had a storm last night it wasnt much but it may have helped ,as I havent noticed any smoke to-day.
I must finish as I have to attend a picnic at the family day care centre that Emily & Abigail go to, they are putting on a concert,and the girls will be singing it should be fun.
Love to you all ,
Marie the Red Nosed Reindeer