General Chat

Hi All,

Mo, I'm sure we would have done the same as you would have with your nephew, and just taken him to the hospital. How can they tell what's going on with him, when they haven't even seen him since he was last at the hospital. Maybe it's something that can be put right with some medication.
It makes me so mad when the hospital responds in that way.

We thought we might go out some where tomorrow, but not sure where to go, and I don't like being out too long if it's going to be hot again. I know I'm a real misery in the hot weather, lol.

Speak to you all tomorrow.

Love, Sallie.xxx

Good afternoon everyone.
It's another beautiful day today here in Kent.
This weekend is the Air Show,at Biggin Hill. We used to go regularly every year,but it got so expensive,and almost on every occassion we went,it was dull and overcast. This year we decided not to go, and yes you are right,it's the most glorious weather inaginable. Still never mind,I would probably have got heat stroke,and sun burn't.

To be perfectly honest with you Sallie, I am worried sick about my nephew.
I am wondering if it's terminal with him. And that hospital have just expanded his life a little by doing the operation on him.
Thats the only reason I can think of,for them not calling him back to the hospital sooner than next month.

I hope you are all well,and are enjoying your weekend.
Love to you all. Mo xxx

Hi Everyone,

Oh Mo, I do hope that it isn't terminal, I really hope and pray that he will get better. I don't even know him, but I feel so sad for him.
I'm not having a very good day today, one of my off days I'm afraid. I've got two more sessions with the Cousellor, so what happens then, I haven't got a clue.
Although I'm a lot better than I was, I still get my off days, just wish I didn't.

I'm thinking of going to Hobbycraft, to look at the things to use on the Cuttlebug. I ordered it late on Monday night from Craft Superstore and
according to an e-mail from them it should have been delivered on Wednesday morning, but I haven't had it, and haven't even had a card put through to let me know that the carrier has tried to deliver it. So I don't know where it's gotto, but one thing I do know is that the money has been taken out of our account.

Anyway, I'll speak to you later.

Love, Sallie. xxx

Mo thanks for the offer.

I am about to go out and pick up the dress from Bhs so I can show o.h. the two outfits but will pop into Evans and see if they have anything I like as well.
Got a call from BM Manager who said he had looked on line that evening after I went in to see if the top was available, realised it wasn't and so the next morning tried Head office to find out where any size 18s were. Then I called while he was at lunch to ask the same thing so he rang me back to say he had located a few, one being at St Neots, in Cambridgeshire. Coincidentally his new deputy manager was at the store being trained up so she is bringing the size 18 top back today when she comes home and it will be at the store by Monday, so I can pick it up after that. Can't do it Monday as counselling so will do it Tuesday after I have been for my vit d jab and smear test at the docs.
Thing is, I am sure it will look good but I probably wouldn't wear it again unless I got invited to another wedding and I don't know anyone likely to marry in the near future, also it might be a bit hot if the weather is similar to today, whereas the other dress is less kind to my apple shape and will be unforgiving if I eat too much lol, but will be cooler and something I might wear again for a meal out or similar.
It's his money so no idea why I am bothered lol..... will keep you posted.

Yesterday evening, he had a bit of a todo with the son getting married over the other son coming over, son's parting remark was Are you drunk? and he put the phone down so now they are at loggerheads unless o.h. rings to apologise today from work (him, apologise? He is never wrong! It's always 'them others') Son had texted to say the 20 week scan went well but they decided not to find out baby's sex after all.
I bet the argument spoiled the day for son. O.h. was exhausted having worked till 10pm the night before and then gone in at 6am next day, his company are rubbish at arranging shift hours, they chop and change with the weather! When he got home he decided to put the shading nets in the greenhouse. Now today he has gone in at 6 again and is working a 12 hr shift.

Must go, hope everyone is ok and not having problems with the heat,

Lizx

Sallie my love, please have a good day tommorrow,I don't like to think off you being down.
Could you ask the counsellor to extend your time with them,especially if it is working for you.
I don't think it very fair that you and Liz,are going to be left high and dry,half way to better health,especially when it's helping you both.
If your cuttlebug has not arrived by Monday, I think I would be sorely tempted to ring them and ask where the heck it has got to. Maybe they did not dispatch it till your money was with them.

Liz, great to hear that BM have gone that little bit further to help you out,
with that top.
Why on earth are you worrying about your shape,in the other dress. Have you seen the under garments that M+S sell to wear with more clingy clothing,they are brilliant. I think we have all got lumps and bumps we don't like being revealed,so you are not alone in your thinking.
Oh dear me, fancy Mr Wonderful falling out with his son. But it was nice off the son to let you know that the scan went well though.
I can remember,as a lot of us will,that we never knew what the sex off the child we were carrying was, till it was born. My son's fiance has her 12 week scan very soon,at least I think it's the 12 week one. thats another thing we didn't have,scans.

Hi All,

Mo, Alun took me to Hobbycraft, I only wanted to have a look at the different things for the Cuttlebug, but ended buying some Promarkers, they were selling them at half price, so I bought two packs of five for nine pounds 48 pence. I also bought a few other bits, Alun just bought some paint for the model railway layout that he's doing---I always seem to spend more than he does, lol.
At least I feel a bit better since going out, we had to go to Mo------s, to get some potatoes and bread, so as it's near to where Jennie and Michael live , we called to see them, that made me feel better too.
Not sure if I'll be able to extend the therapy, I'll see what she says when I see her next on the 15th July.

Liz, I shouldn't worry about showing some of your lumps and bumps, after some of the ones I've seen earlier in the week. One woman was wearing a short top with her rolls of fat hanging out over the waistband of her cropped trousers. Hope you get on okay with your Cousellor on Monday.
It will be nice when you are sorted out your outfit for the wedding, it will be one worry out of the way for you. Let's hope that things will be sorted out with your OH and his son.
Talking about scans, I think the scans these days are much better than they were when I was having Richard. I went with Laura for one of her scans, both Chloe and I went in with her, it was amazing how much clearer the images are now, to nearly 29 years ago.

I hope all is well with everyone else. I'll speak to you all soon.

Love and best wishes to everyone. Sallie.xxx

Hi everyone

no scans when I had J 36 years ago ........ just amniocentesis if they felt something might be wrong. That involved taking a sample of the amniotic fluid from the sac with a needle .......... and had all kinds of risks associated with it.


No ............ we had to use the old wives tales. Carrying forward, carrying back, ring on a string and held over the stomach, which direction did it move?



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It's a lovely sunny day today. We went out this morning, and bought ourselves an umbreall for the sundeck ...... never had one before, and we've only ahd the sundeck since 1977!


It's J&M's 11th wedding anniversary today (26th) ..... where did the years go?!!



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Morning all.
I am up at the crack of dawn here,as it's so flipping hot,I could not lie in bed.
I am going out in the garden in a minute to give my poor plants a nice drink of water,before the sun get any warmer.
Would you all like a nice cuppa before I go.
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Sylvia, the youngsters have no idea how things have progressed,in pregnancy,have they.
As you said ,I had no scans with any off my children.
They didn't tell you,you should not eat this or that as it's not good for the baby.
And the dreaded enema or olive oil with orange squash in it,just before birth.
The awful embarrassment of the nurse having to shave you down below.
Oh what a night mare it all was.
Well this is not going to get my plants watered.
So bye for now,I will be back later today.
Have a nice day everyone. Love Mo xxx

Just a quickie. Mo, it's the same here far too hot for me, although I think that they gave it hotter for your part of the country. I always look at what the weather is going to be like around the London area, with Richard living there.
He's like me, doesn't like it hot, so he'll probably be doing what I'll be doing today, hiding inside, out of the way of the sun.

Hope you managed to get your plants watered before the sun got too strong. I'll look in later today.

Have a lovely day everyone. Take care!

Love, Sallie. xxx

Hello all, Marie here from cold Bathurst,also wet Bathurst very miserable yesterday,and very cold to-day not a day to go out and about,so I spent the day cleaning I took the filter out of the heating system Cleaned it, then sprayed it and put it in the shower and washed it, dried it in the little bit of sun that poked through, cleaned in the grooves of the sliding windows. Vacumned the floors, stripped my bed, washed the sheets,, wiped some of the light fittings,and remade the bed,then had some lunch and watched some TV.
I should feel satisfied but I just feel down, I still havent heard from my son even though I emailed him re a bird of happiness locket, that he gave me when he was a young teenager , I would like to give it to my grandaughter, as a momento of me & I asked if it would be allright with him. I do know that he doesnt look at his emails very often, so hopefully he will do so soon.

Sallie , I do know what has caused this break but it is a long story and there is nothing I can do to fix it.
My daughter thinks I should go and have some counselling as I am dwelling on this and I need help to move on,but I always cry when I have to explain things like this to strangers, I dont think I can do that.
I hope De is much better now.

Mo , dont be too hard on the medical staff re your Nephew the chemo does take some time to work and it also does make the patient rather sick.
Mo dont use too much of that spack filler will you. HeHe
I am pleased to hear your grand daughter is better.

Dear Debbie, it is so nice that you are posting again I did miss your updates on the children, I will have a new grand child very soon this will be my 12th, I dont know the sex.I dont think they wanted to find out I know my son wants a boy as they have a daughter already.
My other son & daughter -in -law Tracie have decided to put their home on the market it is a very large house and has over an acre of land, it probably wont sell for awhile as there are many houses on the market in Bathurst.
They say that their prioritys have changed now that they have a child and Ryan is very involved in his cycling, they wish to spend the time they have spare to spend with their toddler, which is commendable, as it is a miracle that they even have him,and they are not likely to be able to have another child, his name is Jaimen and he is such a happy little boy, though little he is not.

Hello to Liz ,I hope you get your clothing for the wedding sorted both outfits sound nice.
Sylvia I hope your hip or leg is much better , time does fly when we get to our ages, look after yourself.

Hello Huia, I hope you are well, and as has been suggested I do think you should
consider speaking to the ward nursing unit manager
and suggest that you put on a little concert, with you as the singer, we often went to the dementia ward and sang for them, it seemed to calm them. You told me you where a soprano and you probably, like me know all the old war songs that these people loved, it would be wonderful for
you also as you love to sing, do you have a friend who might have a portable piano/organ/keyboard & would be willing to play for you.I think it would great. If I lived near you I would Volunteer as I also play the Piano.

Dear Jean, apparently I called you June once more. I humbly apologise.How are you both also your daughter I do hope she is ok, and that you are on the mend I hope you are getting plenty of sunshine, our bad weather is giving me the blues, even when we get a little sun it is too windy to sit outdoors, I didn't even go to the football match on Saturday as it was too cold and wet, my son -in -law Brian and Sebastian went as they played, Bathurst won the match.
I hope I havent forgotten anyone (((((hugs to you all))))))))
Marie.

Hi Marie, you know we are always here for you I know my e-mails dont get through to you, but I never stop thinking about you... take care lovely lady...
Sallie, sorry I havent been back to you, now the dreaded vertigo has raised its ugly head again, sruggle to write on here but you have all been so kind to me, Ifelt I must try , btw, I found my parchmet stuff and all my tools to do it so hopefully I will be able to have a go when this lot clears up....
love to everyone,, hope to be back soon.

love Jean xx

Hello Girls,

Marie, you never know, but some time in the future your son might be in touch with you again. I really hope he does, I'm sure whatever it was about, it's now all water under the bridge. Life is too short to carry a grudge against someone, so maybe he'll realise it, one day.
You have been busy doing your extra chores, but as you say it's too cold and miserable to go out, unless you have to.
When is your next grandchild due? Even though it will be your twelfth, I bet you can't wait for it to arrive. Good luck and hope it all goes well for them.
Alun has the England and Germany match on, he's shouting at the TV, I think he hopes England can hear him and do what he's saying, lol.
Thank you for asking about the dep. Most of the time I'm okay, but I still have some bad days, although not as bad as they were a few months back. So it's slowly getting better, thank goodness.

Jean, I'm sorry to hear that the vertigo has come back, it's so maddening, when we get rid of one thing , something else comes along. I think things tend to happen that way, I know from my own experience. I won't start telling you what, because it would take far too long, and I wouldn't want to bore you all. Also wouldn't want to drive you all away from this thread,lol.
I hope both J and D are okay, and that they don't mind this hot weather.
We nipped up to Dunelm after our lunch, I only wanted some peel offs and Alun wanted some thick card for his layout. I was glad to get back home and put the fan on, it's much too hot for me.
Good luck with doing your Parchment when you feel better. I haven't done anymore since, as I've been making cards for the church that my bother is the vicar of.

I'll look in again later on today.

Love to you all. Sallie.xx

Hi all, I am back.
My goodness it's been so hot and humid today here. The temperature went up to 31.
See Marie,we are never happy,it's either to hot or to cold.

Jean, Sallie, Marie, Liz,Huia,
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make you all better.
Depression is a right Bu**er to beat. It's a daily battle to beat it,I know speaking from past experiences.
I take my happy tablet each morning,and plod along.

I have been up to the club today with Roly. So now I have had a nice cooling bath,and am sitting here in my pjamas, ooh luxury,no tight clothes on to make me sweat even more.

Time for a refreshing cuppa me thinks.
See you all soon. Love to you all Moxxx

Hi Mo and everyone


please send some of that heat over here!!

It's grey, showery, and about 15C outside. Not like summer at all!


We are however well prepared for when the hot weather does come ...... we bought 2 more fans yesterday!! The one that I have had in this room for the last couple of years didn't work when OH brought it upstairs on Thursday, and he couldn't find out why not. So we bought a new pedestal one, plus a slim-line floor standing one to go into a room that doesn't have much floor space or tabletop space.

I couldn't sleep in the summer without having the fan on in the bedroom!!


Oh, another one re babies

When I had J, we were told to put the baby down on a different side each time, so the head bones didn't get malformed. NOW ................... J tells me the baby is ONLY put down flat on his back, never on the side or front.

MJ doesn't really like being on his back when falling asleep ....... but the powers-that-be say that statistical evidence shows there is less chance of a baby dying of SIDS when lying on its back than on any other side, so baby has to lie on his back!



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Hi Sylvia
My cousins are in Canada and have said the weather is not good.

Talking of the babies:- mine are now 31, 29 and 25 we slept ours on their tummies, to prevent them from choking on any sick !!
Now babies are only put down on their backs , to prevent cot deaths there is a new problem showing up.............. it is called flat head syndrome. They have an issue with the skull not developing properly as some baies do not move therefore their head is always in one position.

Always something to think of with the little ones.

Regards Linda :o)

Sylvia, it makes me wonder which is really the best way to lay the babies down, as over the years they seem to have different ideas. We always put our two on their side to sleep, but somehow they always seemed to end up on their back.
Sorry you're not having very nice weather there, you are welcome to some of the high temperatures here---I don't like it as hot as it's been tday. Like you, we have a fan in the bedroom, Alun's not by the bothered with the heat at all, but I wouldn't be able to sleep either, if I didn't have the fan.

Nice to see you on here Linda! My children are 28 and 25, so things would have been the same for us, with ante-natal, scans and of course ante-natal classes. How things have changed since our youngest were born. My son lives in Berkshire, just a few miles from Windsor and not far from Heathrow.

Love to you all. Sallie.xxx

Hi Sallie
My children were born at Hillingdon Middlesex and the youngest at Heatherwood in Ascot as we were by then living in Windsor. We are now 15 miles from Windsor in Crowthorne. My husband works at Heathrow.

Just wondering where you live roughly?

Linda :o)

good evening again girls.
I have amended my earlier post, because I think I was being nasty,and for those who have read it,I apologise most sincerely.
Good to see you over on here Linda.
You can be out tutor about the babies of these days,as it is your line off work.
At my first birth,I had no idea of what to expect. Even after attending ante -natal classes,and birthing classes,I was thrown in at the deep end.
After having my daughter,I wondered what that thing was around her belly button. They tied them with elastic bands way back then,and putzac talcum on then to dry them out,ready for them to drop off..
I had never bathed a baby,and nearly drowned her,at my first attempt.
All my baby bottles got sterilised in a big saucepan,on the top of the stove.
They were given baby orange juice from the health center, and were fed on National Dried Baby Milk.
No such things as disposable nappies then. Terry nappies that got boiled in an emamel bucket on the top of the gas rings. Till we managed to buy a Baby Burco boiler.
Lovely coach built prams,built for comfort.
My babies were lain on their side at the time,but things over the years have changed.
And when my grandchidren came along,I was absolutely gob smacked,at all the changes that had happened.
But hey thats progress.
Well my lovelies,I must away to my bed now.
Night Night God Bless you all. I will pray for you all to be feeling better soon.
Love and best wishes. Mo xxx

Hi Linda,

My husband and I were born and brought up in Wales. We moved to Derbyshire 31 years ago, and both our son and daughter were born in Nottingham.

Our son went to University in London, and decided that he wanted to stay down there. He has a flat in Langley, and he worked in Windsor until last December. Looking for another job at the moment, but he's not had any luck so far.

Well, I'm off to bed now.

Love, Sallie.xx

Hi all,

Jean, sorry you are having further problems love, do take care and hope you feel better soon.

Didn't have a good day yesterday, o.h. is in a foul mood, hasn't contacted either son but is taking it out on me so instead of going out I spent the afternoon watching tv as I couldn't stop crying at the foul abuse he spewed out at me, about me and my son, which he does to hurt me. He then slept most of the afternoon as he had been to his dad's earlier, and then woke up and started again. I cooked a meal and he ate that and started shouting at me again, threw the tray and plate at me hitting my leg, and then went to bed. I tried ringing his son on Saturday to talk to him about the argument they had had, all over the son in NY coming over, but he wasn't answering altho I left a message. He texted me late evening to say they had been out and he had forgotten his mobile so I sent a message to say I would talk to him today when he is at work. I shall tell him how his father was to me and say this is getting worse, the way he is rowing with everyone. He is even in a fury about someone cutting a tree down in their garden a few doors up, it was a big oak tree about 30 ft tall and overshadowing a new resident's garden so she must have asked him to chop it down. He even rang the council about it and they said if he liked it so much, he should have asked for a preservation order to be put on it. He is now threatening all sorts at the women, saying he is up before her so I don't know what he plans to do, probably all talk and bluster! He has to do a course for work soon and is saying he doesn't want to do and doesn't see the need for it, thinks he is the boss the way he goes on, and knows it all! I will never know how he keeps his job with the attitude he takes at work. I think it is because he doesn't eat properly for the diabetes that gets him in a mood, his dad only gives him a biscuit or something and then he gets home here and doesn't get anything to eat, or drink, except cider, I noticed he has been buying more cider again which he hides in the garage.

The only person who can't do wrong is the son in NY - he has always been the favourite, blue eyed boy.

Anyway, I am glad I can go to counselling today and talk to her and let it all out, idiot said he is paying for the counselling and nothing is happening, he thinks she is going to magically make me able to sort out my hoarding this soon! Trouble is, the more he is nasty to me the worse I feel and less able to deal with anything. I have many other more pressing things on my mind that just that.

Sorry I can't do any individual messages at the mo, just can't concentrate well
Doesn't mean I don't care tho,
take care all
love
Lizxxx